How to be trusted and Know Whether you Can Trust the Other Person
Honest people are often the most vulnerable when it comes to seeing dishonesty in others. They are simply not looking for deception. In the world in which we now live, however, it seems like more people worry about trusting others and are often not as concerned about whether they can be trusted. Trust is often the mortar for cementing relationships and distrust is the breakdown of friendships and love. It is useful, therefore, to examine the following to test if someone is honest and can be trusted. Learning about these ideas will help you see what you can do to be trusted.
Do Your Homework
If you are thinking about participating in a relationship with someone it is wise to learn about that person. The following are indications a person has the background to be trusted, (1) religious or other values, (2) stable family relationships, (3) other long term friendships or relationships, (4) a consistent work history, (5) having borrowed money and repaid it, (6) volunteers service to others, (7) is known as a trustworthy person by other people, (8) has hobbies that produce a product (e.g. art, woodwork, crafts, and etc.) and require an investment of time and effort.
Observe
You can tell much about the honesty and trustworthiness of a person by observing that person and then accurately interpreting what you observe. What you look for includes: (1) whether he or she does what he or she says, (2) if the person accurately describes events or situations and does not embellish or exaggerate them. (3 ) if a person can admit a mistake, (4) if a person accepts responsibility rather than defends himself/herself by blaming others, (5) whether a person cares for other people's thoughts and feelings, (6) whether the person understands the idea of consequences for what he or she says and/or does.
Honesty
You cannot always identify when someone is being honest or dishonest but there are a few signs of honesty and dishonesty which may help you.
1. When an honest person talks he/she will hold your gaze without exaggerating it or turning away.
2. When people are being dishonest they involuntarily drop their head, look to one side, and very briefly change their eye blinks.
3. When someone is being dishonest they attempt to cover it by exaggerating their language giving more than the usually emphasis to what they say.
4. When a person is being dishonest their facial coloring may change. Normal coloring may become a bit whiter than usual."