I am 35 years or younger and have never married
If you are not married, desire to marry, and you are still looking for a partner, there are some useful things you can do. We assume you have joined LDSPromise because you wish to meet more people and be more successful with them. In light of that goal, we would like to offer some suggestions.
Review The Situation You Are In
You may have dated someone who seemed like a possible future companion and he or she decided to do something else. You may have made the decision. You may also have experienced long periods where you didn't date very much. This may be of your own choosing because of school, work, or simply being away from the people you prefer to date. It may because you are around people who don't date. It may also be because you feel or act less attractive than you actually are and do not know how to make yourself as attractive as you can be. In any case you have probably felt the loneliness and desire for love and companionship well up so strongly you are very aware of the powerful motivation to find a lasting love. Your experiences may have led you to doubt whether finding someone will actually happen. You may have felt an intense frustration about the other gender because you do not feel successful around them and they seem inadequate, even uncaring. You may have gone through periods of feeling inferior or feeling inadequate and, for a period of time, rejected the whole idea of getting married. Consider creating a different approach.
Learn Acceptance and Appreciation For the Other Gender
Thinking and feeling negative things about someone else typically is like a circle. First it goes out from you to them, and then it comes back in the form of something which does a disservice to you. Instead of that, learn positive things about the other gender. Discover what makes men and women unique from each other. Then, practice ridding yourself of criticism and judgment of other people. This acceptance will be the foundation of successfully participating in relationships. It is the mostly highly sought after emotional condition for both men and women. You cannot fake it. It has to be genuine and it is typically not easy to learn. It simply means that you will learn how to understand other people better and more thoroughly than you now do. Then, after you learn about them consider what you understand about them without putting them against some ideal standard where they will always fail to some degree. Instead, learn to appreciate their strengths, the value of their experience, and what they offer in their lives. This will help you become more self accepting and more confident in actually living out what you truly are.
Use Social Situations to Practice Acting As You Wish to Act
You have probably heard the statement, 'just be yourself'. We all would like to do that if we actually knew what our 'self,' was. You need to learn about yourself. This includes how you typically act when you are alone and when you are with men, with women, with older people, with friends, with family members, and etc. Then, you will need to decide how you prefer to act in different settings. For example, you wish to talk more, or talk less. You may wish to be friendlier, show greater warmth, or listen better. Whatever you decide you want for yourself, it will be important that you practice displaying these qualities. So, it is not just being yourself that matters. You will need to learn how to be your 'best self,' and to also learn that you can control how you act rather than reacting to the influence of other people.
Spread a Wider Net
It is just common sense. To find someone you want to be with you will have to participate in social settings where you can meet a variety of people. Find church, work, and other social situations and participate in them. Volunteer for service groups. Join some social clubs. Communicate with friends and relatives your willingness to meet people. You can find people on your own and you can learn how to manage the emotions you feel when you are set up with someone or going on 'blind dates.' This is a continual effort. If you are sincere about finding people, you must be where they are.
Learn How To Sell Yourself
You might have trouble with the word 'sell,' because it seems a bit too harsh or unseemly, but the truth is that you will need to learn how to sell yourself. Rather than giving presentations, bragging, or focusing on you to the exclusion of someone, selling yourself in a dating situation has some very positive features. (1) Make certain you care for your appearance and present yourself in a positive light, (2) Pay attention to other people you are interested in by gazing at them , moving toward them, smiling, and asking questions. They will think you are more attractive because you are smart enough to find them attractive. (3) During a conversation, being talking an experience you or the other person has had which has fairly intense emotions involved with it. These emotions can be funny, tender, warm, and etc. People react to emotional experiences unless they are too much and too negative. (4) Exude confidence. Modestly tell about one or more of your achievements and times when you felt worried about something but tried it out and succeeded. Or, tried it out and failed but it was worth it anyway. (5) Confidently indicate what you value and what you believe in. This does not mean to shout it or impose it on anyone. It simply means that you quietly state what you agree with, do not agree with, believe, or do not believe. You will show that you are a real person with your own ideas. (6) Compliment yourself and compliment the other person. (7) Enjoy the experience by laughing at funny stories, telling them, and using good natured kidding. (8) Mimic or imitate the other person in positive ways. This may include a voice tone, a facial expression, or some gesture. Do it in a good natured way. This will communicate that you enjoy the experience."