How to Make the First Date Turn Into Other Great Dates
If you have dated a lot you may have gotten to the point where you make very quick judgments about whether any future possibilities exist. You may have become very used to making that judgment and being judged on the first meeting or first date. It is a very common and often unhappy result that first dates are the only dates. Quite often people do not present themselves accurately or relax enough to listen and understand on the first date. Therefore, it often takes more than one date to make accurate judgments about a person. The by product of this habit is that when you are dating a person of real interest you might not be able to get a second date when you want one.
Communicate The Right Amount of Availability
1. You are busy, but you will make time to see or do something interesting.
2. With your busy schedule there is still some free time.
3. You look forward to doing something with people you enjoy being with.
Lead the conversation into the future
1. Talking about events that are going to happen in the next few days are implicit suggestions that you would like to go on a second date.
2. Identify things you like to do.
3. Match the likes of the person you are dating, "I enjoy doing that too."
Display warmth and enjoyment
1. Interest and attention are rewarding. Communicate both.
2. "I really had fun. You make me feel like you are interested in me."
3. Touch an arm or squeeze the other person's hand sometime during the date.
Be Open About Your Interest
1. "Would you like to do something next week?"
2. "I have tickets to this play. Are you interested in going?"
3. "I am interested in getting together again.""